Sexism in Science

I would like to preface my post by stating that I don't demonize the male gender for sexism at its roots or in its extant form. In fact, sociologically, i believe that the traditional gender roles evolved in general without malice. The residue of sexism I also believe is in general without malice. With the exception of a previous venting of frustration on this website a few months ago, I really don't think men mean to be sexist.  I just don't think that men and women are, in general, treated the same, and more specifically and pertinent to me, in science. I don't even think that all of these differences result in disadvantage. I still strive to lessen these differences. I actually have to remind myself to be on the look out for sexism and to resist it because my default position was long that it no longer existed. It was only when it was pointed out to me that I began to recognize it. I stumbled on a C-Span book talk by a woman named Julie Des Jardines about sexism in the sciences, and I found it affirming. I have found myself talking with my labmates about sexism alot lately, being the only girl. Not surprisingly I don't find a lot of (any) support. The argument goes that the particular instances of sexism that I feel I experience are attributed rather to my personality (loud, aggresive, bubbly, boisterous, you've met me, I don't need to go on). When I try to point out sexism, I want to be clear, again that it is not an accusation. I just want to put a lens on it, to draw attention, and to make people aware of their own behaviors and answer the question of their motives themselves. Returning to the question of the cause of my possible experience of sexism, personality or gender, I must submit that I don't know the answer either. I do know there are some really quirky people in my field and my department and many of these quirks are NOT edifying or even pleasant to those of us that have to deal with them, and I wonder if the same expectation is placed on them to change. Again, I don't know the answer to this question, I just want people to think about it and answer for themselves.